Sep 3

Do You Believe What You Are Told?

I don’t know about you but for most of my life I soaked up what I was told.

If an adult told me it must be true.
If a person in authority told me it must be true.
If a professional (yes those with qualifications and probably experienced) told me it must be true.

I took a lot of this information in as fact, as truth, as “who was I to question that?”

I lived under a mass of labels that defined my “wellness mentally and emotionally”, my personality, my abilities in jobs, my outlook on life, my physical appearance, my pretty much everything.

Maybe that is seen as naive, as silly, as whatever but all I knew is that I was highly sensitive and extremely sensitive to what I was told, especially what was said about me.

My belief was “If they said it, or even thought it, then there must be some truth in it”. Where else would it come from?

For decades I took this as my truth, even though it made me incredibly unhappy, I believed I was always wrong. I was bad. I was different.

My mind and belief system were so programmed in this way so its no wonder I had no self-belief and battled through life in this manner from a very young age. And when a teacher or a boss had praised me, I found it hard to believe at times but I also hung onto their words and typing this makes me tearful because Iiving with a lack of belief in yourself for so long was incredibly painful.

It was so painful that I adopted ways of coping which included pretending I was someone else who would cope and know what to do. That served me on many levels but also confused me as to who I actually was.

Letting go gradually and then not so gradually (whoopee!!) has been seriously liberating as you could imagine like I have escaped a prison where I’d been captured for 35 years or so.

It’s still a work in progress as it is for us all but I’ve come a very very long way and that makes me cry too – for the joy and freedom of it.

After letting go of various labels and beliefs, I analysed what I’d let go of and view a lot of those as the polar opposite of now.

Heres a few examples:

OCD mind (I always had to have a “tidy mind”) I still do else I go into mass overwhelm – this is seen as a thing to fix as it was once very troublesome with obsessions and compulsions however flip it around and it can be one of the BEST aspects!

* organised
*laser focussed

These are all fantastic skills for book writing, to tap into the logical mind.

It caused me a lot of pain when it’s not managed by feeling incredibly deeply and taking on others pain however it can to be fantastic!

*embody others energy, personality

Again, amazing gifts to have especially for ghostwriting and mentoring.

It was out of control a lot in my past however it is a massive motivator!

*takes risks (may sound ironic but the anxiety can find so many fears and limitations I get to the point where I literally think “f*** it – I’m doing it anyway)

I could continue but then I’d be starting on book 3 haha… I look at this in my new book to some degree.

Ditching labels that kept me trapped and were very unlikely to even be true, despite believing them for most of my life as gospel, was one of the best gifts I ever gave to myself to become the bird flying freely I craved.

Recognise what is holding you back (I see it all of the time with people wanting to write books, its a big project and people get scared, let go of their dream and allow fear and untruths to rule their world) and change the devil! Work it through, find out what’s at the core and then let it go.

The beliefs I once held based on my “flaws” that kept me from my best work and life are now what I consider to be my greatest strengths – how bloody amazing is that?!! A complete 360-degree turnaround.

Flaws can be awesome if used positively and don’t let anyone tell you any different.

Want to write that damn book you keep putting off for x,y and z reasons – allow my flawsome self (yep we even make up our own words and publish them!) to guide you, because my obsession, intensity and deep feelingness are epic to help you create an epic, statement, impactful book and fill out the contact form on the contact page today


You can read my full story here, from when I was ten years old and what happened to me. I was admitted to a psychiatric unit at fifteen and continued to suffer throughout my adult life with feelings of self-hatred, fear, darkness and not knowing who I was. I used addictions to help me to cope on the outside when the inside was chaotic. I finally found my healing and had a burning desire to share this with the universe to give love, hope and inspiration to others in pain.

Don’t tell me the moon is shining; show me the glint of light on broken glass

Anton Chekhov