Feedback on my book "The Invisible Girl:A Secret Life"





6/27/17



I have received the most wonderful and heart touching feedback from many readers now and these are just some of the comments received:

"What I have read so far is so fantastic, my goodness what you have been through, You have been through hell and back and come out the other side a wonderful warm compassionate person, and your poem its wonderful, you really do have a talent for writing, don't stop. you have come out so amazing, I am going to recommend it to all my friends, all I can say Samantha is WOW what an amazing woman you are and I am honored to have met you albeit online. The people that you will help on your way is gold.





You are such an inspiration and you boy Joe must be so proud of you. Your are loved, and you are so special. I love your heart." - Rosetta Trovatello

"A moving and page turning book. Samantha has bared her soul here, that takes courage. It is well written with good end and beginning of chapters that keeps the book flowing. I was impressed with Samantha's ability to keep going through a dark time, almost stubborn, but in a good way. I thought the poems were also insightful. Samantha you can write. Keep going."
- Anne Jordan

"A brilliantly honest and accessible read for a difficult subject area. Sam's honesty, strength of character, and determination to overcome obstacles resonates throughout this book. Whether you have the same issues as Sam or not - I didn't - if you've ever felt different, an outsider, a freak even, this book will resonate with you, and show you that life can better, and be good. Thank you for sharing so honestly Sam." - Helen Flannery


"This is an amazing story about a girl struggling with self esteem issues and self hatred. It is an inspiring tale about how she has turned her life round and has now used her experiences to show those who feel there is no hope and that there is no-one listening, that there is always a way. A truly inspiring book." - Vicky Smith

"A wonderful and immensely readable book. Sam vividly conveys her personal struggles and admirable resilience on her long journey to recovery and self -acceptance. Her story will give hope to anyone struggling with their mental health and offers insight to family, friends and professionals seeking to help and understand - Truly inspiring ! "

- Gabby, Mental health Manager /social worker

​"This is a book written from the heart. Sam's story will resonate with many people, whether they have experienced Mental Health problems themselves, or seen someone else struggle. It reads as if she is talking directly to you and gives huge insight into what someone must be feeling and going through, along with the frustration of not being heard. I'd recommend this to people interested in working within Mental Health and also to those who are struggling and need to see there is light at the end of the tunnel" - Sue G



Do you feel like this?





6/12/2017



The aftermath of emotional abuse and/or neglect can take a long time to recover from. It leaves lasting scars of which seem impossible to heal from. You may not even be aware of why you feel the way you do and accept it as a norm however unpleasant you may find your feelings. So I am asking you, do you feel like any of these?

1. Having social anxiety - you find it hard to give people eye contact, you find it hard to be around other people. You find that you are on alert, and feeling anxious as trusting others does not come easy to you.

2. Avoid conflict - you do anything to avoid conflict of any kind. To the point where you are jumpy with loud sudden noises, and any kind of aggressive behaviour makes you very guarded and you feel very anxious.

3. You are defensive - you are on alert, in the fight or flight state, waiting to be criticised.

4. You are passive - you aim to please people, you cannot bear to have any negative feelings towards yourself and you find yourself apologising as though you feel to blame for everything that goes wrong.

5. You find it hard to accept compliments - you don't believe people when they say good things about you.

6. You are indecisive and feel that you have to explain everything to everyone.

7. You find it hard to ask for help.


8. You are an over achiever - you feel as though you have to be constantly proving your worth





These are all triggers of "old stuff" . You spent such a long period of time feeling and being critiscised, having people let you down, often those closest to you. You believe how you were made to feel, worthless, no real value to the world, and that everyone else is better than you.

You need to learn how to let this old and very damaging stuff go and move forward in your life, how you view the world and yourself.

My own course will be coming soon. It covers all of the aspects of the impact of emotional neglect and abuse that helped me. To register your interest please email me ; sam@samanthahoughton.co.uk



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When I was about three or four years old, I drew a picture at nursery school and told my nursery teacher that I was leaving my mummy and daddy's home to live with my grandma.
My teacher asked my mum about it and said she was sorry to hear, my mum said that was not the case at all and she didn't know why I would make that up.
Why would a little girl say such a thing? That little girl didn't know why, but she was clearly not feeling as she should.
As I grew older I would sometimes ask if I was adopted.

When I was about three or four years old, I drew a picture at nursery school and told my nursery teacher that I was leaving my mummy and daddy's home to live with my grandma.
My teacher asked my mum about it and said she was sorry to hear, my mum said that was not the case at all and she didn't know why I would make that up.
Why would a little girl say such a thing? That little girl didn't know why, but she was clearly not feeling as she should.
As I grew older I would sometimes ask if I was adopted.




I didn't feel as though I fitted in. I grew up to be full of rage towards my family which I turned inwardly and into chronic depression and fear.
Fast forward several years and I was engulfed into the young person's mental health services and then the adult mental health services for years to come.
The impact on my life was massive.
As a mostly healed adult, I now know I struggled with emotional neglect. This is far more common than you realise but is rarely spoken of. It slips by unnoticed and undetected and there is silent struggling.
If any of this resonates with you, I would love to hear from you, please feel free to privately email me to sam@samanthahoughton.co.uk


I am currently working on creating online courses to cover as much of this as possible and all the different aspects it involves for an individual. I worked on this for years and have overcome and made peace with much of the damage it caused. I am keen to help as many others as possible. Several people have said that they have had some realisations since reading my book which is wonderful and I want to be able to reach and support as many people struggling as possible with the affects of this.